A Desire to be Pursued

Women love to be pursued

Oh yes, that statement is so true.

I was engaged in a chat with some friends and we were sharing heart-to-heart a relationship story. It’s disappointing, but I  heard this statement from her regarding her boyfriend, “He doesn’t fight back for me.”

Many women may not realize that they love to be pursued. Their heart does want to be pursued. Please, don’t say that I’m sad if I can’t be with you. Instead, women want to know that their men will fight back for their heart.

Am I right? Or am I expecting too much?

As a single woman myself, I know that it can be embarrassing to say it out loud that you want to be pursued. I am a type of person who doesn’t want to expect much from the people around me. I don’t like the feeling of being let down, and I refrain myself from hoping too much.

But that is the truth. Amazingly, that is how God creates women to be. And I find that women inherited God’s DNA, which is a desire to be pursued.

In Psalm 27 David said,

One thing I have desired of the LORD,
That will I seek:
That I may dwell in the house of the LORD
All the days of my life,
To behold the beauty of the LORD,
And to inquire in His temple.

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When You said, “Seek My face,”
My heart said to You, “Your face, LORD, I will seek.”

Wait. Didn’t God love us first even before we knew HIM? Then why is God playing hide and seek now?

I found the similarity of God’s and women heart. God, the Almighty One, let Himself be found by His loved ones. After we receive His unconditional love through salvation, He only reveals Himself to those who seek Him. He wouldn’t give Himself to those who don’t even bother knowing Him more. It all makes sense why in our daily walk with God, we need to crucify our selfish nature in order to pursue God.

Similarly, women desire that their men will sacrifice something in order to get their heart. Am I right?

“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” Jeremiah 29:13

The Most Romantic Story Ever

I once read a book about women’s soul, and it says there that women love to be romanced. It makes me wonder how true that is in women’s life. Do we really have a room for romance in our heart even more than guys do?

It is an unavoidable fact that the biggest consumers for romantic novels and movies are mainly women. So you might be familiar with a story of a hero that goes through all dangers just to save his woman. That’s probably too much of sacrifice to fit into your ideal romantic story.

Your romantic scene might be as simple as the time when a guy is staring at you and confessing how important you are in his life. Perhaps it is when you have a romantic fine dining with your loved one. Then he suddenly takes out a ring, kneels down and proposes you. Classic!

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No matter what story is painted on your heart, there is surely a room for romance in women’s heart. And if you are not aware of it, it might become an unconscious expectation of your love life.

My experience with romance didn’t fit any of my ideal romance scene. I don’t have many experiences though. And that’s why (embarrassingly) I asked God for experiencing a romantic love story in life. I didn’t know how I could have prayed like that. I mean… I’ve now realised that my relationship with Jesus even fits best into my ideal romantic story ever. (Well, I am not saying that you shouldn’t have a romantic relationship other than the one with God, but rather set your heart to love God first before your future life partner)

Jesus was born in this world with a purpose to demonstrate His love. If I could name one of His purposes, that was to die on the cross. He had a choice though, to avoid cross and choose a less painful way of death. I wondered why He didn’t choose that. Then I realised that it takes a very strong man with great characters to be fully obedient to the Father’s will.

And Jesus showed it!

He is the real hero that has won my heart back to the Father. He wants me so much in an eternal relationship with Him. He is staring at me days and night, longing to tell me His thoughts and to bless my dreams and desires. He is full of love and mercy! The real warrior that has rescued me from death to life, from hopelessness to hope, from meaningless life to a life with a purpose!

Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away.
Matthew 24:35

I remember what He said. His love will remain the same. He will be with me till the end of time. Amen.

What Makes You More Beautiful

Special Woman

What makes you more beautiful? If you are confronted with the question, what would you answer?

Is that when you put on a very nice make up on your face? Or when you feel well-groomed in a particular situation? When you wear clothing that perfectly gives a body shape. When you have fairer skin free from blemishes? Perhaps you look lovely in your photos uploaded in Facebook, and people love them, leaving lots and lots of comments? Okey, I do agree those will make you more beautiful. But, slightly!

To me, the answer would be when you realize how special you are! Wouldn’t you feel that you are the most beautiful woman ever? I give you an example, in a romantic relationship the guy you like cares about you. Among all of your friends, his attention is drawn to you. He even wants to be with you all the times. And the fact that he only thinks of you might overwhelm you, isn’t it?

The message is… You are the one! You are special.

But do you realise that we don’t need to wait for the “perfect man” to come into our life so that we will feel special. Hey, He who makes us the apple of His eyes has already made us special. God has made you special since the time He formed you in your mother’s womb. You are not born to be special, but you are born special.

I once thought that if we are all special, we are not ‘that’ special anymore. Too many ‘specials’ equals to common, isn’t it? But you know what, we are not mass produced! God designs us with an innumerable DNA in each cell in the human body. I was told that each of DNA even carries different message which differentiates us from others.

Do you realise that there is a message in our life? A special message as a response to His calling. What makes us so special, Lord, that You even care for everyone of us? What is the reason that You think we are special?

There is a calling in our life that differentiates us from others. A definite purpose, a big dream, a desire of your heart, you name it. They are inside you, and they are waiting to be released…

..in order to make you more beautiful.

“For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
Ephesians 2:10 (NIV)

When Girls are in Love…

There is an interesting statement when I was reading a book talking about woman’s soul.

woman-flower

Girls become prettier when they feel loved. When they are in love.

I was thinking.. how could that be possibly true? You mean because you are on cloud nine, everything seems so beautiful and therefore you smile a lot than before, and here you go, you become prettier.

Oh… yes, I am sceptical about that. If that is so true, I will suggest everyone to quickly find someone to fall in love.

But I am thinking that it might be true when it comes to the One who has loved me first. Yes, I am talking about Jesus! Honestly I had never viewed God in a romantic relationship. To fall in love with Jesus? How about putting it in a nicer way.. to love Jesus?

I really mean the words “to be in love with” when I discovered these feelings of mine. A feeling of acceptance that I am accepted the way I am. A secure feeling that everything will be alright. An urge to come to Him and talk what I have gone through today. A longing to know what He thinks of me. A desire to be still and find rest in Him.

I do feel loved.

Hmm… now it does make sense to me. You smile too much. You hope always. You feel free. Your inner strength emerges from within.

What makes you more beautiful than being like that?